Mellow Mountain Counseling

  Reflective listening is a way to show that you are accurately hearing what another person is saying. Reflective listening can be helpful with a disagreement, argument, or problem solving. The reason this helps is because: A . You can better see their problem and solution , from a logical and emotional perspective. B . When someone feels their point of view is truly seen, they are more likely to lower their defenses and hear your personal point of view as well. Be present with the other person  (focus completely on the moment with that individual, stop what you are doing, remove distractions and have an environment where you can focus on them) Listen intently to what they are saying  (stay tuned only to what they are saying, do not go over in your head what you would like to say, the most important thing is hearing not speaking) Say back to them in your own words what you think they are trying to communicate "What I hear you saying is ..." Ask them if what you said is

Finding Shelter in the Emotional Weather Emotions can be confusing because they can come and go at different times, similar to the weather. We often would like to change our emotions, Feel excited rather than anxious, or joyful rather than sad. But the truth is that we can't directly and automatically just change our emotions. Very similar to the weather, we can't control it, we have to let it pass through. The good news is that there are ways that we can be able to take shelter when it feels like there is an emotional storm happening, and ways that we can find safety until the overwhelming emotions pass. Here is a list of things to keep in mind when you are feeling overwhelmed that can help temporarily with managing intense emotions. Sometimes it can help identifying these things before hand, and writing them down, either in your phone or on a small card you can keep in your wallet, so when you are feeling like in an emotional crisis, you can pull the list up for reference. -